It’s about time we talked about best friends and besties.

Best friends are friends who just happen to be on your most contacted list or your pinned chats. Bestie on the other hand is your best friend who may or may not be more than just a friend.
However, the big question isn’t whether you should have a bestie but whether your romantic partner should have a bestie of the opposite sex.
Simply put, should your boyfriend have and keep a female best friend?

Best friends, according to the books are the best but a new strain of bffs is slowly creeping in. This strain is masked with mysterious carnival masks behind which lies a cunning liar. Telling lies is as old as history but lying to someone who trusts you is a criminal offence.

I hear it is not lying anymore, it’s withholding the truth.
It’s a Wednesday evening and a close friend of mine Wanja (remember her from In the Sex clinic) and I are preparing super. It’s one of those rare evenings where we take time, go through a recipe and decide to try out something new. Also on our to-do list for the evening is catching up with how well or how bad our relationships are doing.

The dating scene in campus is one big jungle where the rule; survival of and for the fittest, rules and offers an unfavourable advantage to the strongest, leaving the weak on a path marked with not just one but several broken hearts. Finding that one person who makes you feel funny in your stomach occupies your brain rent-free and makes you feel like a yummy mush is rocket science with some black magic. But before you do, you’ll most possibly meet a few who will occupy your brain rent-free but give you a running stomach from their deplorable choice of lies. These are the lying best friends.

As the Spanish rice simmers on in the pot, my friend goes on to tell me her hell of a story. Her boyfriend has a female best friend and she is not sure whether to ask this girl out for coffee and have a chit chat or to lace the coffee with poison and kill her. To say the least Wanja is insecure. She is scared that this bestie will run with her man. She has no evidence that this alleged best friend is more than a friend but jealousy is turning her into a witch and a potential murderer.

“Kwani I can’t be his best friend!”

This conversation quickly swirls into an emotional strife as she goes on to describe the web of lies that is caging her relationship and turning her beloved boyfriend into a liar. He is her best friend but in her own words he is a lying best friend.

This raises the question, if you were in Wanja’s shoe, what would you do?

Here is what I would do. I would take this girl out for dinner, buy her favourite drink, take photos with her, book a spa session for us, ride the Ferris wheel with her then pay her Uber back home. But then I would have a little conversation with the Uber guy.😉

What would you do?

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HAPPY NEW YEAR folks!!!!!

The first post of the year, I had to talk about this. The bestie crisis.

It’s about time we got Wanja’s guy to give his side of the story.

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^Faith❤